Thursday, April 3, 2014

Number 18 - Difficult to Forgive, Number 25 - Dinner, Number 27 - Body, Number 29 - Misunderstanding

18. What has been the most difficult thing you have had to forgive?

Without going into detail, I once felt like we were wronged by one of Nathan's workplaces.  That has been hard to forgive.  It was made easier by how well they dealt with some other things...but there were parts of that job/workplace that I still have a hard time forgiving.  But workplaces are just people, right?  And people make mistakes.  Or they're just mean.  haha.  But everyone needs forgiveness so that's what I aim to give.

25. If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?

I would have dinner with any one of my ancestors who has passed away.  Any of my grandparents or great-grandparents or great-great-grandparents.  I would ask them about their life and how they grew up and what their dreams are for their family and so many things!  What would we eat?  Probably some traditional Mennonite meal.  Some good, old meat and potatoes!

27. What is your favorite part of your body and why?

My eyes.  It's probably because, as a child, I got a lot of comments/compliments on my eyes.  I have big, brown eyes that I quite appreciate having.  It sounds weird to say what you like about your body but that would be one thing that I love about me.  There are other parts of my body that aren't my favourite BUT I can appreciate the fact that I can look at them and know who I got that particular gene from...and that makes them pretty cool, even if I wouldn't choose it :) But really, I don't have too many issues with my body.  Ideal or not, it's what I have and it treats me pretty well so I can't complain!

29. What do you think people misunderstand most about you?

I feel like people misunderstand my quietness.  She's quiet therefore she must not have anything to say.  Not true.  I often don't have anything to say, which is why I'm usually quiet.  But don't assume that I'll never have anything to say. 

She's quiet therefore she's not having fun.  Not true.  Sometimes I am having fun and sometimes I'm not. You won't be able to tell based on my auditory level.

She's quiet therefore she must always be a quiet person, in every situation.  Not true. I talk Nathan's ear off at home. Sometimes I'm quiet and sometimes I'm not.  If you only ever see me in groups, then you probably think I'm always quiet.  But one-on-one, with the right topic, I can talk.

She's quiet therefore she has no sense of humour.  Not true.  I hate it when I make a joke and people think I'm serious just because they didn't expect it.  Nothing like throwing out a joke and having people stare at you awkwardly just because they weren't expecting it and think you're being serious.  I find that if people get my jokes, I can be real with them much more quickly than if I throw something out and it's incredibly awkward.  If I make a joke or comment and it's not received well, I clam up even tighter and will be less likely to open my mouth the next time. Just so you all know ;)

She's quiet therefore she must not like hosting people in her home.  Not true.  I actually love to host.  It's the potential for awkward silences that keeps me from inviting people into our home more. If you promise to talk, I promise to feed you!

Yup, I feel like my quietness leaves a lot of room for being misunderstood.  Oh well.  The people who really know me, understand me despite my quietness.  Thanks.


Anonymous said...

Not sure I know you well enough to guess rightly what you are thinking when you are quiet. ;) But I do understand being misunderstood that way. Except that people typically thought/think I'm grumpy because I'm not talking. When really I just don't enjoy small talk and find the whole idea of "making conversation" uncomfortable. I think we both just need time to get to know people! -Katie

Nadine Janzen said...

I'm good for conversation if you are good for the home-cooked meal... See you sometime this fall :)